Passive Communication

Sometimes when I get a phone call or a kind of communication delivered by some person, the passive communication happens. The passive communication happens when I receive a message that I don't feel like receiving at that time. Such kind of communication lacks my passion and commitment to make a good communication. And it causes some suffer to me.

I don't know how this situation begins. It seems that I never had such feeling when I was a kid. Maybe it is because there is far less consideration when we communicated as a kid? We expressed what we think directly. If we don't feel like talking, we just shut our mouths. But when we are adults, things don't seem to be so simple. We have to consider other people's position. We have to consider the mutual benefit. We have to consider the outcome of some of our action. So we don't necessarily have genuine passion for each communication. That's why passive communication happens.

There are two ways to face this situation: One is just shut down every communication channel when we don't feel like communicating at all. Another is always prepare our minds and change our minds when we have the negative feelings. As to which way should we choose, it definitely is the issue of objective we choose. What kind of objective we want from the situation? Do we just long for a little bit of tranquillity? Or do we encourage ourselves to keep an exploring and open mind? There is no standard answer or choice. There is no best objective.

For me, I would try to encourage myself to walk the second way.