Gap

When cognitive gaps appear, who should be responsbile?

Theoretically, surely both parties of the communication should be responsbile. A should be responsible because A should seek to close the gap between A & B. B should also be responsible because B should seek to close the gap between B & A.

But if we are either A or B, things are different. From objective perspective, both parties are responsible. From subjective perspective, the thinking party should be responsible.

If today there is a cognitive gap between me and another one, I should seek to close the gap. I should not blame the other one. Why? Because it changes nothing if I only think we both are responsible and blame him for his not closing the gap. I should be proactive and seek to change the current situation from my side.

I should bear this in mind.